- by The Guru
Feeling down? Need Advice Getting An Ex Back?
Here are some important tips that will help you in get an ex back into your life. If you want to get your ex back then you need to understand these tips carefully because without understanding these tips you will likely not get your ex back. Consider the place where you can begin to revive your relationship.
When you get in relationship with your partner then there are 4 fundamental things that are expected to be present:
- Romance / Love.
- Security / Trust.
- Intimacy / Sex.
- Your Time.
These are basic requirements of every relationship. If your relationship failed and your ex left you, there was a failure in a mutual delivery of all these aspects. But the first step is locating this weak link in your relationship.
Every second of every day someone’s relationship is ending. But each and everyone on eof these unique break ups can be linked back to one of the 4 fundamentals of a good relationship being missing from their life. If you’re going to be committed to getting an ex back, it’s up to you to figure out which one of these aspects your relationship lacked, and make sure you make it known that you can now provide it. Another important aspect is balance, as too much of one of these aspects can also weaken your relationship. Some people love their partners way too much, but still find that their relationships end in a break up.
Tip 2 – Know Why Your Relationship Ended.
This tip is important because when you are start working on getting an ex back you should know why your relationship ended in the first place. You and your partner are two totally different people and your needs and demands are different from each other. The sort of misunderstanding that comes from this innate difference can lead to many break ups.
What types of relationship did you two have? What type of relationship do you want now? If you wanted a long term relationship and they were only looking for a short term relationship (sex), this is an easy explanation as to why you two broke up. The type of relationship you are both after completely changes the dynamics in the chemistry you two will have. If you are both after a short term relationship, saying “I love you” a few weeks in would kill the mood. If you’re after a long term relationship and have been dating for a few years, the lack of an “I love you” would be a serious warning flag.
Tip 4 – Know The Psychology Behind Your Breakup.
You need to know what was going on in your ex mind when he left you. If you’re reading this advance to get your ex back, it’s not going to help if you broke up because your partner decided it really was “them, not you”. Was it something to do with you, or with them? Did something serious happen in their life? I know it is impossible to see what ex is thinking about you but you can decode the answer from your ex’s actions. If your ex leaves you by saying these super classic lines “I need space” , “You deserve better”, “I don’t know what I want ” that means you are moving too fast or too slow in your relationship. If you really can’t figure out what your ex was thinking, perhaps getting back together isn’t the right idea after all.
Tip 5 – Avoiding Doing These:
- Chasing after your beloved – A common mistake that many people make their attempts at getting an ex back. Avoid crumbling and looking desperate and weak after the break up, and start to move towards self-improvement. Figure out an exact plan.
- Blowing up their phone – If they go silent on you, realize that no amount of prodding is going to get you a straight answer. Even if they do break and start responding, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll actually get the truth in their response. It’s a waste of time. Go No Contact on them, and give them 60 days to send you a text, and gauge from there.
Keep these tips in mind when you decide to go down the path of restarting a relationship. It can be a bit difficult, but it will pay off it was indeed meant to be. Just don’t crumble and make sure you keep moving towards self-improvement, as well as keep in mind that introspection is a good practice. Figure out if anything that caused the relationship to fail was your fault, and if you actually do want to change to try again.